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2 years ago

Attitudes of an Immature Marriage

  • "I didn't grow up this way!" or "That's not the way mom or dad did it."

  • "I've got to have a life that is separate from my marriage."

  • "It's not my problem. You deal with it!"

  • "You ALWAYS..." or "You NEVER..."

  • "That's mine!"

  • "I don't have to listen to this!" or "Don't you tell me what to do!"

  • "It's all your fault!"

  • These ten attitudes are all signs of an immature marriage. If you have some of these, they indicate a flaw in your thinking regarding marriage. It is actually very common to have at least a few of these immature attitudes. After all, it's not like you went to a four year college and graduated with a degree in marriage. No, most of us jumped into marriage not knowing much about it.

    We'll take each attitude one by one, and I'll show you the flaw in the thinking process and what must be done to correct it.

    IMMATURE ATTITUDE - "I have my rights!" or "It's not fair!"

    This attitude in a marriage shows a fundamental flaw in your concept or idea of what a marriage is supposed to be. When you get married, the very act of doing so meant that you gave up any right to 'your rights'.

    It should not be 'my rights' or 'your rights' it should be 'OUR RIGHTS!'

    Marriage is a unity of two people and all that they are. As long as you hold selfishly to 'your rights' you can't achieve the true objective of a marriage-the unity of a man and woman.

    Imagine if both parties in a marriage concentrate on uplifting and promoting the marriage instead of themselves. Most of the problems in such a marriage would disappear. I mean let's be frank, the main cause of all of our arguments is pride and selfishness.

    Work towards seeing your relationship as a single whole instead of two separate parts. Else, your relationship is not a marriage it is a partnership, and you don't have a mate you have a roommate.

    IMMATURE ATTITUDE - "If this doesn't work out, we can just get a divorce."

    This attitude is incredibly naive. It suggests that there is no commitment, no purpose to the marriage other than one's own gratification. A marriage has to be more than other relationships. It needs a level of commitment that you're unwilling to give to any other human on this planet.(adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});

    Marriage can not be separated from the society. Society will always influence the marriage institution. When Greece emerged as a worldwide empire, the family was affected. Whenever an empire rises up, the thoughts, the culture, and the practices of the ruling empire normally affects the lifestyle of its empire. For example when the British Empire came to some parts of Africa, the life and the ideals of British people filtered into the African society. And so, Greek thoughts and ways of marriage also affected the family as an institution. Apart from Greek culture, Roman culture also influenced the society's few of the family.

    We need to know all these because sometimes, too, the culture around us affects us very much. le christ

    2 years ago

    le christ

    Your little Princess or Prince has finally graduated High School and is headed off to college. You have about a month and a half before the only ones left in the house will be you and your spouse. No more kids to pick up from school or take to soccer practice. You have all the time in the world now to spend with each other. You can take the long walks or carry on those long talks that you use to do. The only problem is that you haven't done it in 18 years. Maybe the following information can help your marriage survive the empty nest challenge you are facing.

    For some couples sending the only or last child off to school is an exciting time. Their vacations or lives are no longer tied to their child's school life. However, for some couples it's a very scary and dangerous point in their marriage. With no excuse available to not spend more time together, they will have to spend more time together or unfortunately realize that they don't want to spend time together.(adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});

    Possessiveness in marriage is the desire to dominate or control every aspect of a spouse's life. It may be with regard to friendships and relationships, jobs, hobbies or even programmes that can be watched on TV. It can lead to coercive control of the other person, making the victim afraid to oppose such behaviour or do what she wants to do. Possessiveness is commonly attributed to men. But there are many women who also like to keep their husbands in a vice-like grip. Probably the term 'hen-pecked' reflects this attitude.

    A marriage was arranged between a smart and sprightly young pharmacist and an officer in a private bank. Though his features were distorted by Bell's palsy, the parents thought nothing of it. He had a steady job with a good income and this ensured the security of their daughter. Within a few months, the girl turned into a sad, morose and distracted woman. Her husband was possessive to the extent that she had to give him an hour by hour account of her behaviour at work. He obstructed her progress professionally in different ways.

    She could not join in any social activities with her colleagues. Three children followed in quick succession. The girl tolerated her husband's behaviour for ten years. Then she absconded, leaving a note to say that unless her husband went in for psychiatric treatment for his abnormal behaviour, she would never come back again. One recalls the nursery rhyme of "Peter, Peter pumpkin eater who married a wife but couldn't keep her. So he put her in a pumpkin shell, and there he kept her very well."

    But the girl broke through the shell hollering "Don't you dare fence me in."(adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});

    le christ